Well my wife uttered those fatal words

[xlc12rf]

As long as it is not interfering with the finances, what's the big deal?

I tell my wife that I am my own person, and I refuse to end activities that give me enjoyment just because she says so. This is why I still smoke cigars, ride my motorcycle, etc.

I had to explain it carefully, but when she understood that she was just being selfish, she stopped giving me grief completely. Now she half supports it, if it makes me happy.

[irratebass]

Originally Posted by xlc12rf

As long as it is not interfering with the finances, what's the big deal?

I tell my wife that I am my own person, and I refuse to end activities that give me enjoyment just because she says so. This is why I still smoke cigars, ride my motorcycle, etc.

I had to explain it carefully, but when she understood that she was just being selfish, she stopped giving me grief completely. Now she half supports it, if it makes me happy.

My hero! I need to know exactly what you said to her lol. Finances are covered and all that, she even got mad at me when I told her I was going to get a pt job...she thought it was to get away from her, I explained that it was for cigars, music & videogames....I really don't see the big deal either....maybe she needs a hobby?

Ok this has turned into the oprah show now lol sorry.

[neoflex]

Originally Posted by xlc12rf

As long as it is not interfering with the finances, what's the big deal?

I tell my wife that I am my own person, and I refuse to end activities that give me enjoyment just because she says so. This is why I still smoke cigars, ride my motorcycle, etc.

I had to explain it carefully, but when she understood that she was just being selfish, she stopped giving me grief completely. Now she half supports it, if it makes me happy.

For the most part my wife no longer cares as she knows it is something I enjoy and she knows she can usually just buy whatever she wants too. But to keep it from becoming a problem or a box or two costing me even more money in the whole well you bought a box of cigars so I bought a pair of shoes I do exercise caution. If my collection didn't have all my storage devices busting at the seems including an decent sized end table cabinet I wouldn't even bother hiding some of my purchases but I am too the point where my collection is far exceeding what I could consume in a couple years.

[irratebass]

Originally Posted by neoflex

For the most part my wife no longer cares as she knows it is something I enjoy and she knows she can usually just buy whatever she wants too. But to keep it from becoming a problem or a box or two costing me even more money in the whole well you bought a box of cigars so I bought a pair of shoes I do exercise caution. If my collection didn't have all my storage devices busting at the seems including an decent sized end table cabinet I wouldn't even bother hiding some of my purchases but I am too the point where my collection is far exceeding what I could consume in a couple years.

Yeah, that's just it...I have NEVER denied her anything she wanted to buy.

Originally Posted by garryyjr

Why didn't I think of having them sent to work. Brilliant!

We work together *que everyone going "Ohhhhhhh" like in a sitcom*

Originally Posted by Lonely Raven

Well, you got to keep the dog...so that all worked out.

And the cigars!

[chippewastud79]

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And there is no need to hide purchases, just abide by the "24 hour rule". When a purchase comes in, put it in the appropriate place (humidor, drawer, etc.), if she doesn't notice within 24 hours then she can't complain/be upset about it/tell you to take it back.