How to convince the wife I need a lounge in the basement

[timj219]

Well I'm going to use the "savings" argument as part of my pitch and see how it goes. In the end I think we'll end up compromising and I'll enclose part of the back deck. As far as telling instead of asking or doing what I like because I pay the bills, I realize those suggestions were probably half in jest but I couldn't live with a woman who didn't expect decisions like this to be made cooperatively. And I'd rather smoke outside, give up a few bad weather days or weeks of smoking, if it means coming back in to a happy wife.

[Remo]

Originally Posted by timj219

And I'd rather smoke outside, give up a few bad weather days or weeks of smoking, if it means coming back in to a happy wife.

Smart man! Happy wife = happy life

[mosesbotbol]

Originally Posted by timj219

As far as telling instead of asking or doing what I like because I pay the bills, I realize those suggestions were probably half in jest but I couldn't live with a woman who didn't expect decisions like this to be made cooperatively. And I'd rather smoke outside, give up a few bad weather days or weeks of smoking, if it means coming back in to a happy wife.

Life can't be a one way street either, there has to be give and take. Smoking inside when needed is obviously important to you and she should hopefully be willing to accomodate you. It's about finding balance that you can both live with.

I read too much about guys walking on eggshells in their own home, where's the balance in that?