People never cease to amaze me

[Blueface]

In this case, there is no doubt in my mind it is not an oversight.
He knew I went to the store to buy parts for him. That is clue number one.
I gave him the receipt for the parts I bought immediately upon my return. That was clue number two.
I asked him if he had the receipt for the parts right before I left. That was clue number three.

Again, it is not about the $11 so much as it is about that I can't help but feel this guy has a sense of entitlement. I somehow can't help but think that in his mind, I somehow owed him that. That is what pisses me off about this whole thing and thank goodness I haven't told my wife. I wouldn't hear the end of it.

It is just sad that you try to do the right thing and help out a neighbor and save him tons of money at a time when people can sure use it and folks are not considerate. If someone did that for me, not only would I make sure I reimbursed him for the parts but I would also offer to pay him for his time (I wouldn't have accepted it but it is the gesture that would have counted). If he wouldn't accept it, I would try to find out what he drinks and buy him a bottle. He saw me smoking a cigar while doing the pump. Me? I would go out and buy a couple of cigars and give them and say thanks. Bottom line, I would express gratitude.

I am an idiot like this on a regular basis and is the reason I won't dare tell my wife. I trim freaking neighbor's hedges/trees with my chainsaw, I help them fix things all the time and man, I just realized, no one has ever done crap for me. I can't change my way of being overnight but tell you what, the guard is up.

[ghostrider]

I think you're to be commended for all the things you seem to do to help your neighbors. Perhaps due to that nature, your neighbor assumed you were helping, with no expectation of anything in return. If that's the case, lesson learned, don't do anything for him without working terms out up front. At this point, wait a couple days, see if he comes up with something. As was mentioned, you're the better man in this situation...but I think you already know that. I think there's more to you that being the better man...it's about doing the right thing.

[G G]

Originally Posted by Blueface

In this case, there is no doubt in my mind it is not an oversight.
He knew I went to the store to buy parts for him. That is clue number one.
I gave him the receipt for the parts I bought immediately upon my return. That was clue number two.
I asked him if he had the receipt for the parts right before I left. That was clue number three.

Again, it is not about the $11 so much as it is about that I can't help but feel this guy has a sense of entitlement. I somehow can't help but think that in his mind, I somehow owed him that. That is what pisses me off about this whole thing and thank goodness I haven't told my wife. I wouldn't hear the end of it.

It is just sad that you try to do the right thing and help out a neighbor and save him tons of money at a time when people can sure use it and folks are not considerate. If someone did that for me, not only would I make sure I reimbursed him for the parts but I would also offer to pay him for his time (I wouldn't have accepted it but it is the gesture that would have counted). If he wouldn't accept it, I would try to find out what he drinks and buy him a bottle. He saw me smoking a cigar while doing the pump. Me? I would go out and buy a couple of cigars and give them and say thanks. Bottom line, I would express gratitude.

I am an idiot like this on a regular basis and is the reason I won't dare tell my wife. I trim freaking neighbor's hedges/trees with my chainsaw, I help them fix things all the time and man, I just realized, no one has ever done crap for me. I can't change my way of being overnight but tell you what, the guard is up.

This sense of entitlement you speak of is 97.2% of the reason we are where we are at in this country today, I am with ya.

Originally Posted by ggainey

This sense of entitlement you speak of is 97.2% of the reason we are where we are at in this country today, I am with ya.

I deal with the general public daily and I think its higher that 97.2%. It truly amazes me that people feel they are entitled to or its their right to "fill in the blank". Not to thread jack but last week we were at a customers house, a seemingly intelligent man and woman, and listened to them spout on the whole time we were there how they cant wait for "this president and his congress" to make things right. They used phrases like" fixing the rich", "redistributing everyone's money" and the one that made me puke a little in my mouth "its everyone's right to have as much money as the rich". They argued with the $1500 bill claiming a $6 dollar item on it was suppose to be free

I feel your pain

Chas

[G G]

Originally Posted by ChasDen

I deal with the general public daily and I think its higher that 97.2%. It truly amazes me that people feel they are entitled to or its their right to "fill in the blank". Not to thread jack but last week we were at a customers house, a seemingly intelligent man and woman, and listened to them spout on the whole time we were there how they cant wait for "this president and his congress" to make things right. They used phrases like" fixing the rich", "redistributing everyone's money" and the one that made me puke a little in my mouth "its everyone's right to have as much money as the rich". They argued with the $1500 bill claiming a $6 dollar item on it was suppose to be free

I feel your pain

Chas

That about says it all Chas.

[icehog3]

If he hasn't paid you by the time I come down for the snkbyt Herf, I will dig it up and hand it to him in 40 pieces, Carlos.

You are a good man, and nobody can take that away from you....your Mother and Father raised a good man.

[Made in Dade]

Carlos, hearing stories like this really bothers me. Reminds me of a similar situation with our neighbor and my father. He should be kissing your A$$ for helping him.

[Blueface]

Originally Posted by Made in Dade

He should be kissing your A$$ for helping him.

Mikey,
I don't know about that.
Heck, can't even get my wife to do that.

[Mikey202]

Don't go changin' , bro' !!! You have every right to be fed up with people. It always seems like good, giving people "get the short end of the stick."
I've had the pleasure of meeting you at TW with Alex... and all I can say is , don't go changin' who you are, because of shelfish people.

"Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me". Ya'know.

[Blueface]

Originally Posted by Mikey202

Don't go changin' , bro' !!! You have every right to be fed up with people. It always seems like good, giving people "get the short end of the stick."
I've had the pleasure of meeting you at TW with Alex... and all I can say is , don't go changin' who you are, because of shelfish people.

"Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me". Ya'know.

Thanks to you and all others who have posted kind words.

I can't change who I am overnight as much as may think I may want to. As such, there are more "Carlos helping out neighbors" events to come. I genuinely enjoy it as they are projects to me that challenge me. I just won't trip over the same rock.

BTW, this place and all the generous people that are part of it consoles me when I lose faith in the world. The world is full of plenty of good people. Unfortunately, there are plenty of not so good also that taint the good ones by leaving a bad taste.

That said, I don't think I could have picked a better title for the thread as people will never cease to amaze me. That goes for the bad as much as it goes for the good.

[G G]

Originally Posted by Blueface

Thanks to you and all others who have posted kind words.

I can't change who I am overnight as much as may think I may want to. As such, there are more "Carlos helping out neighbors" events to come. I genuinely enjoy it as they are projects to me that challenge me. I just won't trip over the same rock.

BTW, this place and all the generous people that are part of it consoles me when I lose faith in the world. The world is full of plenty of good people. Unfortunately, there are plenty of not so good also that taint the good ones by leaving a bad taste.

That said, I don't think I could have picked a better title for the thread as people will never cease to amaze me. That goes for the bad as much as it goes for the good.

Well said my friend.

[G G]

Originally Posted by Mikey202

Don't go changin' , bro' !!! You have every right to be fed up with people. It always seems like good, giving people "get the short end of the stick."
I've had the pleasure of meeting you at TW with Alex... and all I can say is , don't go changin' who you are, because of shelfish people.

"Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me". Ya'know.

I agree, it is hard though. But the blessing will come back, just maybe not from that particular person.

He sounds like a moron and a cheapskate,that was very kind of you...his bad

[replicant_argent]

Originally Posted by Blueface

I trim freaking neighbor's hedges/trees with my chainsaw

And yet, still.... despite his neighbors screams of "CARLOS!!!!! I DO NOT WANT YOU TRIMMING MY WIFES BUSH AGAIN!"



or



"CARLOS, THAT HEDGE ISN'T SUPPOSED TO LOOK LIKE AN ORGAN!!"

he continues his quest for lanscaping infamy.

[lightning9191]

Originally Posted by replicant_argent

And yet, still.... despite his neighbors screams of "CARLOS!!!!! I DO NOT WANT YOU TRIMMING MY WIFES BUSH AGAIN!"



or



"CARLOS, THAT HEDGE ISN'T SUPPOSED TO LOOK LIKE AN ORGAN!!"

he continues his quest for lanscaping infamy.

Maybe you should trim their bushes in the shapes of organs....they'd probably stop asking for you help

[tunes]

Originally Posted by Blueface

I trim freaking neighbor's hedges/trees with my chainsaw, I help them fix things all the time and man, I just realized, no one has ever done crap for me. I can't change my way of being overnight but tell you what, the guard is up.

I too have been down this road and with the exception of a few I no longer offer my services. I was the neighborhood go to guy, Mr. Fix-it so to speak. But as more and more requests were made, fewer slaps on the backs and Thanks were being given in return, as if it was expected. I now find I have more time to relax and smoke my 'gars.

Sorry - didn't mean to thread jack...