Did I do wrong? Long read very adult/serious issue

RevSmoke · 12-28-2009, 07:14 AM

Kegan,

I am not talking about what you do in regard to the items you want to mail out.

I was speaking of your dating future and intimacy. That is all.

Two thinkgs that went into my previous post.

1) My work as a police chaplain and the number of suicides I have had to "pick-up-the-pieces" on.

2) My work with couples and individuals in regard to dating/marriage, the intimacy, factor that is or isn't there, and amzingly, with the police, internet fraud and perversion in dating.

I don't know that your heart is any bigger, or us FOGs have smaller ones (or colder ones). It might simply be an issue of naivete.

hotreds · 12-28-2009, 09:10 AM

Keegan- you asked for advice. You got it- pretty much we are of one voice that you need to let these people go. Your attempting to change our minds is not going to work. If you are trying to convince yourself to keep interacting with these people maybe that, too, should be a red flag.

Our advice is free and worth as much. Understand it comes from folks who have lived life for a little longer than you. The old saying is: "If I only knew at 25 what I know at 60." So, again, remove these people from your life- you'll be better off. If you don't want to do this, no amount of cajoling will convince us otherwise. Do what you want, but our advice stands.

Good luck to you.

Subvet642 · 12-28-2009, 09:25 AM

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Originally Posted by hotreds

Keegan- you asked for advice. You got it- pretty much we are of one voice that you need to let these people go. Your attempting to change our minds is not going to work. If you are trying to convince yourself to keep interacting with these people maybe that, too, should be a red flag.

Our advice is free and worth as much. Understand it comes from folks who have lived life for a little longer than you. The old saying is: "If I only knew at 25 what I know at 60." So, again, remove these people from your life- you'll be better off. If you don't want to do this, no amount of cajoling will convince us otherwise. Do what you want, but our advice stands.

Good luck to you.

12-28-2009, 09:47 AM

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Originally Posted by hotreds

...So, again, remove these people from your life- you'll be better off. If you don't want to do this, no amount of cajoling will convince us otherwise. Do what you want, but our advice stands.

Good luck to you.

And I agree; people can go through hell and still remain friends - in this case, maybe not, but neither of these individuals is going to affect my life as much as they may have earlier on.

I do understand that, and deep down, I suppose I have for awhile; I always try to see good in people, but at the same time, I can often spot the bad apples (8/10 times we'll say). I was just trying to make things work, you know "if at first you don't succeed...yadda yadda." and at least I can walk away knowing I tried my damnedest to help.

Katie's all right. Given her past, she's done very well, and I'm not worried about our friendship. Mary left of her own free will, so que sera sera.

I've got her address, if anyone wants to send her some Ghurkas

12-28-2009, 07:14 AM	#1
RevSmoke Ain't Never Gonna Leave Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Todd Location: Northcentral woods of Wisconsin Posts: 6,881 Trading: (51)	Re: Did I do wrong? Long read very adult/serious i Kegan, I am not talking about what you do in regard to the items you want to mail out. I was speaking of your dating future and intimacy. That is all. Two thinkgs that went into my previous post. 1) My work as a police chaplain and the number of suicides I have had to "pick-up-the-pieces" on. 2) My work with couples and individuals in regard to dating/marriage, the intimacy, factor that is or isn't there, and amzingly, with the police, internet fraud and perversion in dating. I don't know that your heart is any bigger, or us FOGs have smaller ones (or colder ones). It might simply be an issue of naivete. __________________ Todd__ "Smoke what you like, and enjoy it!"

12-28-2009, 09:10 AM	#2
hotreds Ephesians 2:8 Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: 5 miles past "Resume Speed" Posts: 11,674 Trading: (63)	Re: Did I do wrong? Long read very adult/serious i Keegan- you asked for advice. You got it- pretty much we are of one voice that you need to let these people go. Your attempting to change our minds is not going to work. If you are trying to convince yourself to keep interacting with these people maybe that, too, should be a red flag. Our advice is free and worth as much. Understand it comes from folks who have lived life for a little longer than you. The old saying is: "If I only knew at 25 what I know at 60." So, again, remove these people from your life- you'll be better off. If you don't want to do this, no amount of cajoling will convince us otherwise. Do what you want, but our advice stands. Good luck to you. __________________ God loves you so much, that he made you read this, just to let you know.