Some Peoples Kids............Just a Vent

MajorCaptSilly · 09-14-2010, 08:26 AM

Just as a counterpoint on non-involvement from parents: I tend to see the opposite quite often. Many parents I see are way too invloved in their kid's lives to the point that they seem to be living through their child's lives. so much pressure is being put on the kids in school, athletics, etc that they reach a breaking point and do bad stuff. I've seen this happen many times with my kid's friends. They get pushed and pushed again and at some point, they break down and break the law. It seems to be more a way to "punish" the parents than anything else. I've seen drinking, stealing, fighting, etc from upper-middleclass kids that were "perfect" up to the time of the crime.

This seems totally different from non-involvement but is actually similar. When parents push the kids to succeed at everything, they miss teaching the simple but important stuff like the Golden Rule.

MCS

Gophernut · 09-14-2010, 09:10 AM

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Originally Posted by Wanger

Here's another example of how bad things are: In our 10 yr old's class, they have spelling tests on Fridays. The number of words they have to know for that test on Friday is dependent on how well they do on a pretest on Monday. They more they get wrong on Monday, the less they are required to know on Friday? Are you f'ing kidding me??? I was dumbfounded when I saw that. And this school is supposedly one of the best elementary schools in the state. Wow...has our education system gone in the tank, or what?

This is freaking ridiculous. Don't want to hurt the self esteem. If you don't have to work at it, is it really worth doing at all then? Actually punishing those that do try on Monday.

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Originally Posted by MajorCaptSilly

This seems totally different from non-involvement but is actually similar. When parents push the kids to succeed at everything, they miss teaching the simple but important stuff like the Golden Rule.
MCS

I see this often in athletics. The ones who have the most talent and ability often times have the less desire due to parent over-involvement.

Sorry to the OP about the situation there. Not a good feeling about having your stuff gone through and taken.

09-14-2010, 08:26 AM	#1
MajorCaptSilly Sklee Join Date: Oct 2008 First Name: Scott Location: Mishawaka, IN Posts: 2,523 Trading: (30)	Re: Some Peoples Kids............Just a Vent Just as a counterpoint on non-involvement from parents: I tend to see the opposite quite often. Many parents I see are way too invloved in their kid's lives to the point that they seem to be living through their child's lives. so much pressure is being put on the kids in school, athletics, etc that they reach a breaking point and do bad stuff. I've seen this happen many times with my kid's friends. They get pushed and pushed again and at some point, they break down and break the law. It seems to be more a way to "punish" the parents than anything else. I've seen drinking, stealing, fighting, etc from upper-middleclass kids that were "perfect" up to the time of the crime. This seems totally different from non-involvement but is actually similar. When parents push the kids to succeed at everything, they miss teaching the simple but important stuff like the Golden Rule. MCS __________________ Pillsbury, Minneapolis, Prince, Spoon Bridge and Cherry, coinkydink?